Married people bug me!

Married Christians annoy me!  

Don't get me wrong I love them and have some great friends who are married but they still annoy me, a lot.  The reason being it always seems like married Christians can only talk to singles about marriage in one of two ways... either they tell you how much it sucks or they tell you how amazing it is.  There never seems to be an in between.   

Let's unpack the two ways married people talk to singles about marriage.  

First they tell how much it sucks. For example I have a friend who says 'no one who doesn't have kids is allowed to be tired'  and I'm like 'hmmm last I checked I feel tired and I don't have kids?'. Or the husband who ALWAYS talks about his wife as 'the boss' or 'the ball and chain'.  I mean come on guys!!! We can do better than this! And women do this thing stuff!  like how some women Alway talk about there husband like he's a child... come on ladies that stopped being funny the first time you did it!  

Then there is the 'every thing about marriage is the most amazing thing ever!' people.  You know these people right?  The people who always act like your life has no meaning unless you are married because marriage is the pinnacle of life and that that is when life starts.   These people say stuff like 'oh you're such a nice guy you should get married!' Ummm Thanks!  Trying, its not that easy.  I mean I'm happy that God sent you an amazing person to live the rest of your life with but so far God's been blessing me with being single!

So whats the point of me writing this?

I'm not trying to sit here and hate on married people.  I really am happy for you that you found an amazing person to live you life with.  I just think you can do better.  I think married people can have better relationships with singles than I see so often inside the Church. I mean can we still be friends?  Can't you still be honest with me?  Or is marriage some kind of secret club that I can't join until I get married?  Can you not remember when you were single?

I guess all I'm asking for is a little understanding

And a little help and guidance.  I mean maybe some time you should tell me how you found your bride/husband.  Or tell me that marriage is hard but its all worth it because you are with your great love.  Just be honest with me.  Tell me the truth about marriage.  Don't act like because you found your great love that it is easy, trust me its not!  And finally please don't act like there is something wrong with me because I'm single.  The writer of most of the New Testament, Paul, was never married and he seem like he did some pretty great things.  Singleness is in fact a blessing because I get to spend more time serving God.  So finally please just be honest with me!  And understand my life is tough too just for different reasons.

(I know some great couples who are my friends and honest to me so don't think I'm talking about everyone but there have been times when I have had a hard time finding married couples who would be honest with me about the greatness and toughness of the married life and I believe we can all do better.)